This is a hard post to write, as it has the potential of sounding sarcastic. However I am genuinely grateful.
Almost three years ago I set a secret and private goal for myself. Only my husband knew my intentions and was fully supportive.
Despite my goal being private, numerous comments have been made as to why I could never achieve such a milestone. “Sarhn you need to embrace the reality” and “forget it as it’s just too hard”.
I chose to keep quiet with such comments, to ensure my goal wasn’t revealed and hence safe from judgment and further negativity. Instead I would silently repeat in my head:
Impossible is just your opinion but it isn’t mine. So don’t tell me that it is just reality – reality doesn’t know what I know.
Comments were often said with good intentions or had nothing to do with me – people projecting and transferring their fears, experiences and beliefs onto me. Realising this offers freedom. Freedom from anger, freedom from being influenced and freedom from caring about what is said.
Last week I achieved my goal. The same goal others said was impossible or just too hard.
Yes I did a victory, happy dance. Yes I am proud of myself – for believing I determine my own reality. However my strongest emotion today is gratefullness.
Thankyou for all the limiting and negative opinions, beliefs and comments – they actuated and fuelled my desire for success.
I am not sure if you can remove all negativity from your life but ultimately, you always have control on what you do with it – accept it, reject it or maybe even change it into a source of motivation.